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Your qualifications got you this far. Your ability to understand & communicate your value gets you hired, promoted and paid more…

People who experience you know you make a big difference. They are happy to recommend you even… But when someone asks what exactly makes you different, you have a much harder time articulating it.

So why (even though you're working so hard and doing all the right things) do you feel frustrated and overwhelmed and like you’re making little-no progress in your career?

Let me tell you something vulnerable about me: For 10 years, I stayed in a relationship where I was constantly de-valued.

My feelings and needs were dismissed as the norm, and I was gaslit to believing I needed fixing for simply having needs at all.

So I changed myself. I set out to “fix myself” which I thought meant “don’t have feelings, definitely don’t express them and don’t ask for anything that might make him angry.”

I made excuses for him when he would dance and flirt with other women all night at my work Christmas party, while I’d cry myself to sleep while he snored peacefully beside me.

Serious answer: He didn’t understand what my problem was because I should know that I’m “over-reacting”...

And somewhere underneath all of it, I was still there because I believed this might be the best I could get.

I genuinely didn't think there was anything “better for me in the dating pool”.

And based on who I had dated before, this was all the truth I could see at the time.

This brings me to what I hear from people in the same place in their careers that I was in that relationship:

The funny thing was, that at work: I was a completely different person.

I negotiated my first high-paying job before I even finished college.

I went from receptionist to HR manager in tech within 4 years. I asked for raises. I got promoted. And if an employer didn't value what I brought to the table yet, I’d keep going back with different ways to ask for it until they did.

My professional environment was clear, my personal one was a mess.

I was SO confident in my value and capability in one part of my life and blind to it in another.

And this is what eventually made me better than qualified to see it so clearly in the clients I now serve.

What I had spent 10 years doing in that relationship was precisely what smart, talented women are doing in their careers every day:

Using their own self-doubt (or, as I now call it, value-blindness) to keep themselves from getting what they want, and could totally get if they knew how to ask for it!

It shows up in:

→ Being the workhorse who delivers, taking on more and more responsibility to prove they can do it before they feel entitled to ask for what they actually should have gotten from the beginning.

→ Stepping in to lead when something is falling apart, carrying enormous responsibility and getting the result, then still questioning whether they have enough experience to be seen as valuable.

→ Dancing around the ask, hinting at what they want, or waiting for someone to recognize what they’ve earned instead of simply asking for the opportunity, title or correct compensation.

→ Having incredible evidence of what they can do, then walking into the next room wondering whether they’re credible enough, experienced enough, or have the “right” background to belong there.

→ Putting a ton into an opportunity that doesn’t recognize their contribution, then quietly accepting that instead of asking for more, trying again, or finding the place that will.

And the BIGGEST factor driving it all….

Believing the big fat LIE that they don’t have another choice.

I believed this lie for 10 years so I’m good at catching it!

The problem wasn't that I didn’t have value.

The problem was that I was blind to it. So I couldn’t speak from it, or make decisions from it.

And you may be experiencing this too.

When my time came to leave that relationship, I had a coach hold me steady.

She said “I won’t take you on as a client unless you have moved out of that house”

It was the most courageous thing I’ve done, it was HARD but it felt RIGHT, and I knew it.

I also knew I hadn’t had the courage to take this step on my own.

I had tried twice before and always ended up back in his bed, despite trying to break free. I moved in my sister with 2 months and STILL went back 🙈

Now 7 years later the reward on the other side was 100000% worth.

My hope is that you reading this, might be ready now…

And if you are, I'm ready to support you to make that change, whatever that looks like for you.

Here’s what it’s looked like for some of my clients:

→ Getting your first high quality job in a high value company and adjusting to that level of success

→ Leaving for a different opportunity that lights you up and may be completely different than what you “know you can do”

→ Staying in the job you have and asking for what you want and getting it

→ Learning how to navigate the internal politics that are making you crazy with curiosity, resolve and steadiness, leaving you ready to take on the day instead of dreading it…

→ Moving into that next level whether it be Director, or VP or simply getting into the rooms you need to be in.

→ A combination of all the above:

What happens when that a new level of experience gets unlocked:

You can expect things like:

→ Your boss’s feedback that once ruined your entire day doesn’t have a hold on you anymore…

→ When three of the five irons you put in the fire go absolutely nowhere and you don’t make that mean you’re doing it wrong.

→ Your idea gets brushed off again and you’re already planning the next-level iteration of the ask…

→ You make the decision you know you want to make instead of spending three days doubting it…

THAT’S WHEN YOU’LL KNOW YOU’RE “DOING IT RIGHT”