We Live in Different Realities (And I Like Mine Better)

"Well, what she needs is a slap across the face to put her back into reality."

That was an actual comment left on my friend Basant's viral Business Insider article. Her crime? Quitting a toxic job where she was doing the work of two people, completely burnt out, never feeling like enough. The commenters called her lazy, said her next job would be as a beggar, that she deserved a reality check.

Here's what they didn't know: She was an immigrant abroad at 21 with no safety net. She graduated from Harvard. She now works at Google. Her mental health is at an all-time high. Quitting was the best thing she ever did.

This episode tackles something most people never consciously recognize: we all live in different realities. Not a collective reality where everyone sees things the same way—individualized realities shaped entirely by what we believe is possible.

When someone tells you to "face reality," look at their life. Are they thriving? Or are they struggling and projecting their limitations onto you? Because what they have in their life will tell you what they believe. They believe it's hard, so it's hard. They believe they have no choice, so they don't. Their reality proves their beliefs true—and they'll insist you accept that same reality as fact.

But here's what's wild: your reality is what you decide it's going to be. If you believe things have to be hard, you'll prove that belief true through the actions you take and the results you create. If you believe things can be easier than you think, you'll start seeing opportunities you wouldn't have noticed otherwise.

This isn't toxic positivity or woo-woo thinking. It's recognizing that the belief comes first, then the evidence shows up. One of my clients saw a Facebook post, offered value with zero attachment, and is now negotiating a massive contract—the best opportunity of her life. She didn't apply to thousands of jobs. She saw differently, so she created differently.

What You'll Discover:

• Why "necessity breeds creativity" works for some people and paralyzes others
• The two types of hard (and why only one is worth tolerating)
• What happened when I tried to outwork my negative beliefs (spoiler: it repelled people)
• How shifting from "things have to be hard" to "things don't have to be so hard" changed everything
• Why quitting with nothing lined up is right for some people and wrong for others—and how to know which you are

Stop letting people who live in limited realities convince you that's "just how it is."

Watch the full "Why You're Not Getting Hired" series: https://www.asknataliefisher.com/why-you-re-not-landing-job-offers